True feminine power isn’t a copy of masculine strength. Especially in menopause, a woman’s wisdom distills into slower rhythms, deeper sensuality, and communal grace. Learn six pillars of authentic feminine power—and why softness is not weakness but untapped strength.
Why “Strong Woman” Images Miss the Mark
Search “strong woman” and you’ll see Rosie-the-Riveter biceps and bodybuilding poses—images of masculine strength in feminine form. They prove women can flex and conquer, but they also reinforce a subtle lie: that a woman’s power is valid only when it imitates a man’s. Feminine power is not a mirror of masculine force; it is its complement—equal, essential, and utterly different. Diana Richardson and Janet McGeever, in their landmark book Tantric Sex and Menopause remind us that this potency becomes even richer in menopause, when the body’s wisdom slows to a deeper current of presence.
The Cost of Over-Masculinizing
Culture applauds the woman who “brings home the bacon and fries it in the pan.” Yet, as David Deida and G. S. Youngblood note, when a woman lives primarily from masculine drive, the cost is emotional starvation—irritability, cynicism, anxiety, exhaustion, or illness. Feminine energy must flow like a river; damming it guarantees flooding. Menopausal women feel this acutely—the body absolutely demands for rhythms society rarely honors.
Six Pillars of Authentic Feminine Power
1. Rhythm Over Routine
As women, our bodies are built for the dance of rhythm and cycles–not for clocks and calendars. Our feminine power comes from riding these tides. While our culture emphasizes being to work at the same time every day no matter the season, a woman’s body reminds her that her greatest productivity gives nod to her cycle. While she’s ovulating her creativity skyrockets; when bleeding she’s open to mystic insight. She finds her true power by respecting her rhythm.
In menopause and beyond we crones (“crowned ones”) hold larger cycles—decades, generations, cultural tides. Your perspective is panoramic; your wisdom is preventative medicine for those still “in the weeds.” Feminine power comes from making our voices heard and doing, what from experience, we know is right.
2. Feminine Rituals
Yoni steaming, yoni eggs, womb meditations, sensual dance are ancient practices that:
Anchor mind-body-spirit.
Connect you to ancestral lines of women.
Release unspoken grief or rage stored in pelvic fascia.
Refill the well after long stretches of masculine doing.
Richardson and McGeever call these practices the art of slowness—a pace that lets pleasure re-educate the nervous system while menopause re-educates the soul. While these rituals are for women of all ages, in menopause they become especially useful for tapping a woman’s true power.
3. Community as Power Source
When I was a girl growing up in Kentucky, one of the historical sites not far from my home was Shakertown. Here at this historic site, actors preserved the farming community that lived there a century ago. Shaker women rarely worked alone; the work was too grueling for individual efforts. Instead, they quilted, gardened, and baked together as infrastructure. Their collaboration was power. That teaching is as true today as it was then: allowing help, giving help, and celebrating another’s bloom multiplies your own. This propensity for community, for collaboration, is where feminine power radiates and shines.
4. Sensuality
Feminine power begins in the senses: savoring hot tea on the tongue, silk on skin, birdsong at dawn. Sensuality sanctifies ordinary life and reminds the nervous system that safety and pleasure can coexist. In the Sensual Woman Series I teach with Tycee Belcastro, women learn the incredible power sensuality has to bring a woman home to her true self, so she can live a life of passion and purpose.
5. Relaxation and Surrender
Waves of feminine power emanate from relaxing and surrendering. When a woman can relax into a sexual experience, for example, her body and heart become enveloping–pure spiritual food for her partner. Relaxing supports the functions of her feminine rhythms, making her powerful with creativity and connection.
6. Love as a Cathedral
At the apex of feminine power stands love—not sentimental emotion, but cosmically channeled benevolence. This is Shakti: free-flowing, magnetic, life-giving. When love moves through a woman’s leadership, art, and intimacy, she becomes a goddess who builds cathedrals around the altar of the heart. No wonder cultures that feared women’s power called her sinful; a woman fully alive in her love sets an unstoppable, powerful tone for her family, her workplace.
Practical Ways to Reclaim Your Feminine Power
- Moon Check-In – If you’re not familiar with your body’s rhythm yet, now is the time to tune in. Note where we are in the lunar cycle and ask, “What does my body crave today—creation, reflection, rest, or release?” Keep a journal and see if you notice any patterns with your personal rhythm and the cycle of the moon.
- Two-Minute Sensual Pause – Close your eyes, slow your breath, and identify five sensations (sound, scent, temperature, texture, taste). Do this a few times a day. How does your body feel when you are deeply enjoying? What do you notice happening with your heart when you are in your senses?
- Sister-Support Swap – Trade tasks with a friend (she edits your résumé, you cook for her). Cooperation fuels feminine power.
- Take on Ritual Yoni steaming fifteen minutes, once a month, to signal your nervous system that pleasure is safe and tap your inner wisdom. Yoni egg work to connect to your hidden tissues and increase their spiritual blessings. Sensual movement to identify and move your emotions. Yoni meditation for the power of manifesting. They’re all ancient, effective rituals for tapping your feminine power.
The Dance of Feminine and Masculine
A cathedral without a priest is barren; a river without banks is a swamp. A hymn without harmony has no dimension. For all the importance of claiming feminine power, it is one-sided without the compliment. Real power is the tango—masculine lead, feminine swirl, both in playful tension. When a menopausal woman reclaims her softness without sacarificing her wisdom, she is not second best; she is indispensable. And when she partners (in work, love, or friendship) with healthy masculine energy, their union completes creation. This isn’t to say a woman needs a man, per se. But it does mean masculine and feminine energies are equal, complimentary, and need of the other to be fulfilled.
Closing Blessing
Your feminine power is God-given—a blueprint etched into your cells by the same intelligence that moves tides and births galaxies. When you embody it you become a living temple: heartbeat drumming earth’s rhythm, breath rising like geese from the lake, hips remembering creation’s spiral. Rosie the Riveter teaches grit; the Sacred Feminine teaches grace. Especially in menopause, when the veil between human time and soul time thins, softness becomes sacrament. Let the powerful river of Shakti flow, precious soul. The world is parched, and your waters are holy.
I’m Dakini Leah. I help women understand what sacred sexuality is and reclaim their innate sensual natures so they can overcome anxiety and depression, discover their orgasmic potential, and create deeply intimate connections.
Contact me for your complimentary discovery session. 970-242-5094
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