Tired of the tired myths telling you your sex life is over after menopause? Darling, it’s just beginning. Let’s undress the lies and reclaim your erotic flame. Whether you’re 35 or 75, your desire is sacred. Here’s why it matters—and what you can do if your partner’s not ready for the ride.
Let me be blunt, darling: most of what we’ve been taught about sex is either half-baked, patriarchal nonsense or just flat-out wrong. These myths aren’t just annoying—they’re destructive. They smother our vitality, kill our pleasure, and leave us believing that our divine bodies are broken, dried up, or done.
Well, not today, love. Today, we reclaim our erotic power, myth by myth.
Myth #1: Women Over 60 Don’t Need Sex (or Desire) Anymore
Lies. All of it. Just a steaming pile of culturally-approved, medically-gatekept hogwash.
Here’s the truth: our sexual energy doesn’t “expire” like milk. It evolves, darling. After menopause, many women actually find themselves more available for pleasure—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. No more pregnancy worries. No more cycles to track. Just sweet, sacred space to finally explore your own body without shame.
And libido? It’s not a switch you flip—it’s a flame you feed. You may need a new recipe to get the fire going, but the fire still burns.
Myth #2: If I Don’t Feel Aroused Anymore, Something’s Wrong With Me
Baby, listen close: desire doesn’t always strike like lightning. Especially as we age, arousal can come after we begin. That’s right—you don’t have to be horny to start making love. You just have to be willing to enter the temple.
Diana Richardson calls this “relaxed arousal.” It’s like turning on a slow cooker instead of a microwave. Long, low, and luscious.
And if your libido has gone quiet, it may not be broken—it may just be tired of bad sex, neglect, and stress hormones. Give her a reason to wake up.
Myth #3: I Shouldn’t Worry About Sex If My Partner Isn’t Interested
Oh goddess, no. Sex isn’t just about having a partner—it’s about being in relationship with your own life-force.
Your libido isn’t a dirty little secret—it’s your sacred YES to life. When it hums, everything glows: your skin, your voice, your confidence, your creativity. It’s like turning up the volume on being alive.
If your partner isn’t on board? You still get to take the ride. They can catch up—or not. This journey is yours.
The Danger of Sexual Illiteracy
Most of us never received real sex education—only shame education.
So we enter adulthood knowing more about how to prevent pregnancy than how to build pleasure. We understand erectile dysfunction more than we understand our own yoni’s seasons. We know how to fake it but not how to feel it.
It’s time to stop outsourcing our sexual wisdom to Cosmo articles and old wives’ tales. Educating yourself is an act of devotion. Learn how your body works. Learn how your desire dances. Learn how your sexuality can ripen, deepen, and transform through the decades.
That’s why I helped create The Intimacy Series—a place where we can unlearn the myths and remember the magic. Come as you are. In your shame, in your power, in your pause.
You don’t need a partner to do this work.
Seriously. If he doesn’t want to come along for the ride, you get to go anyway. When one partner expands, the whole relationship changes. And often? That expansion becomes contagious.
Our Personal Myths: The Ones That Really Haunt Us
Cultural myths are one thing. But the real mischief-makers? Are the myths we’ve unknowingly swallowed whole:
“I’m not desirable unless someone wants me.”
“If I explore my sensuality, I’ll be rejected.”
“I’m too much… or not enough.”
These myths live in the body. They show up as contraction, numbness, disinterest. They don’t die just because you “know better.” They need attention, breath, ritual, community.
How to Begin Uncovering Your Personal Myths
1. Yoni Dialogues
You’ve heard of the Vagina Monologues. Create your own right in your own home. Place your hands over your womb, breathe deep, and ask: “What do you want me to know about my sexuality?” Then listen. Write it down.
2. Erotic Journaling
Free-write about early sexual experiences and your first memories of desire. What did you learn? What was forbidden? What still lives there?
3. Join The Intimacy Series
Our guided workshops offer you loving space to untangle, reweave, and rewrite your erotic narrative.
4. Sacred Witnessing
Find sisters (or a coach) who can hear you without flinching. We heal in the presence of others who aren’t afraid of our desire. Don’t have a group? You are warmly welcome to join our private Facebook group where you will find the sacred witnessing you crave.
5. Start Sensual Practices
Yoni steaming, breast massage, slow solo touch—not to perform, but to befriend your body again.
Sweetheart, your libido is not a nuisance, a burden, or a thing to mourn. It is your aliveness, dressed in red silk and candlelight. Whether it whispers or roars, it is sacred. And it is yours.
So toss the myths, stroke the truth, and let your erotic self take the lead.
Come join us inside the Intimacy Series. Details are below.
Whether you’re flying solo or dragging a sleepy partner in your wake, the temple doors are open.
With reverence, sass, and a wink of the divine feminine,
Dakini Leah
The Intimacy Series with Dakini Leah & Dan Powers
Workshop 1: Pleasure Reclaimed: Unlearn limiting sexual myths and reconnect with your authentic sensual truth
July 25, 2025 | 6-9 PM
Boulder, CO
Make a getaway weekend of it by staying in beautiful Boulder! You don’t need a partner. Sexual myths are dangerous because they kill your zest for life and prevent you from experience the fullness of love you deserve. Spend a sizzling evening with us blasting away untruths so you can love and be loved more deeply than you ever dreamed possible. Then, hike Chatauqua Park, shop the sexuality section at the historic Boulder bookstore, take tea at the breathtaking Dunshanbe Tea House, or bike along Boulder Creek to integreate what you learned. Claim your sexuality for yourself with every workshop in The Initmacy Series.
I’m Dakini Leah. I help women understand what sacred sexuality is and reclaim their innate sensual natures so they can overcome anxiety and depression, discover their orgasmic potential, and create deeply intimate connections.
Contact me for your complimentary discovery session. 970-242-5094
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