Before you buy another candle, lube, or vibrating toy in search of deeper intimacy, let me invite you to consider a practice that costs nothing, requires no special tools, and can be done anytime, anywhere: meditation.
If that surprised you, you’re not alone. Most people don’t associate meditation with passionate, satisfying lovemaking. But as a Tantric Sexuality Educator who teaches couples how to make love for hours, I can tell you this: meditation is one of the most powerful erotic tools you can learn.
Here’s why:
Meditation Teaches You the Art of Presence
Taking just 10-15 minutes each day to meditate trains your brain to slow down, soften, and listen. That alone is a miracle in our overstimulated, fast-paced world—but in the bedroom, it’s transformative. When you bring presence into lovemaking, everything becomes more beautiful. You become more aware of your partner’s body, of your own desires, of the energy that moves between you.
Meditation develops what I call 4th-dimensional consciousness—a state where time slows, awareness expands, and love becomes more than a feeling; it becomes a field you step into. In this state, your Beloved becomes radiant. Your own body feels like a sacred temple. And pleasure? It deepens into something soulful, emotional, almost spiritual.
In 4D consciousness:
- You notice the nuances of touch and sensation.
- You’re more attuned to your partner’s signals, needs, and joy.
- You feel memories and dreams come alive in the present moment.
- You breathe with intention, pulling your nervous system out of fight-or-flight and into relaxed arousal.
Tantric Meditation Teaches You to Receive Touch from Within the Soul—Not Just Through the Skin
Especially in the west, we tend to think of ourselves are primarily bodies first, then minds, and then maybe spirits and souls if we have a spiritual inclination. Meditation teaches you all these part of you are inextricably integrated. This allows loving to penetrate beyond the body and into the mind, heart, and spirit. It helps you give and receive love with your whole being.
And Perhaps Most Deliciously of All, Meditation Teaches You How to Move Energy
The heartbeat of a Tantric experience is the feeling of this mysterious phenomenon called energy, also known as shakti prana and kundalini. When your breath becomes conscious and your mind grows still, shakti prana rises. Shakti prana is a gentle, diffuse wave of energy you can feel within your body, not unlike the way a breeze moves through trees. Sometimes shakti prana rises so strongly it becomes kundalini. There’s no mistaking kundalini. It’s like lightning. You’ll feel intense ecstatic energy rocking through your body—not just in your genitals, but in your belly, your heart, your fingertips, your crown. It’s like dancing across the sky from the inside.
So yes—if you want to transform your sex life, light a candle if it brings you joy. But more importantly: close your eyes, breathe deep, and drop in.
Because the first step toward nourishing, soul-satisfying love begins in stillness.
Dakini Leah is a Certified Tantra Educator through the Ohonu School of Tantra; a Certified Meditation Teacher through the Meditation Organization, and a B.A. in Psychology from the University of Kentucky.
To work with Dakini Leah online or in-person, contact her for a complimentary 30-minute discovery session. 970-242-5094
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